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January 15, 2018 By NBA Staff

Inside The Life Of A Sex Worker

(Jared Lawthom | LAD Bible) – Have you ever wondered what life must be like for a legal sex worker? To sell your body to strangers, to fulfill their fantasies and to deal with the stigma of living as a professional in that industry?

Some will tell you it’s empowering to women, to use men to get what you want on your own terms. While others will say it’s enslaving, turning daughters, sisters and mothers into little more than a tool for sexual gratification. But what’s the truth?

We spoke to a legal sex worker, Ruby Rae, who works at The Love Ranch – which is in Northern Nevada and is part of America’s Only Legal Red Light District, to pick her brains on the job, the lifestyle and all that goes with it.

LADbible found out the secrets of the brothel, feminism, weird clients, STIs and some of the common misconceptions of the industry.

First question, how did you get into it and how long have you been doing it for?

So, I started in 2011. I was 20, an undergrad and working at a full-time job. I just realised that I was working too much to be able to focus on school.

I’ve always known about the legal brothels in Nevada. I just got really curious and I researched them and the idea kind of blossomed from there. I took a really big giant leap of faith and reached out to them.

What exactly are the types of services you offer?

Because I work in a legal brothel, you can pretty much put it out there that, ‘hey, if you come here you are going to get a full-service experience’. But for different girls that means different things.

I would say for me, personally, I specialise in ‘the girlfriend experience’, because I think that just fits my personality as I’m more introverted.

What other types of experiences can you get?

So there’s the ‘porn star experience’ which is a bit more rough and sexual. Then of course you have fetish, role play and also a lot of two-girl bookings.

As you specialise in the girlfriend experience, do the lines ever get blurred between the service and actually developing feelings for the client?

I’ve never really got too attached to a client. I see them as friends and my lover for the time they’re with me. When I started the bigger obstacle was making sure that clients don’t get too attached.

Without boundaries, it’s not healthy for me or the client.

What would be a red flag?

Asking certain questions about my personal life is inappropriate. I would nip that in the bud pretty quickly. I never want them to feel like I’m leading them on.

It’s also really healthy for clients to see a variety of girls, because when you just see one girl for so long, it’s really hard for them not to get attached.

Would you ever consider giving it up for someone you met?

Well this won’t make me sound like a romantic at all but no. Not at all. I mean who knows, if I met someone and it was my soul-mate then maybe, but I don’t really believe in having one soulmate.

How about ambitions for a family?

I always say I don’t think I will. If I’m being totally honest, child-birth really scares me. I just see myself as being that really cool aunt, who spoils all of her friends’ children. I’m not saying it’s completely out of the picture though.

What for you are the biggest misconceptions towards the industry and sex work in general?

That we’re ‘dirty’ or ‘desperate.’ We certainly aren’t dirty. At the legal brothel we are tested for STIs every single week and for HIV once a month.

We’re also not here because we’re desperate. I totally chose to do this. I re-searched it heavily and I knew what I was getting into.

One of the biggest issues sex workers seem to have is being labelled a prostitute. What are the main differences between sex work and prostitution?

People have created a bad stereotype with the word prostitute, especially Hollywood. When they show a prostitute in a movie, usually it’s not in a good light. So, when you have things like that thrown up against the word it creates negative connotations and we don’t want to be associated with that.

We want to be seen as business women. Women who have chosen to be free and empowered.

You were saying you think it empowers women. Why?

I am empowered by sex work because I have a lot of freedom in my life and my schedule. It would be very hard for me to go and work in corporate America after doing this job.

Of course there’s the money. I make a lot more than I would in a corporate job. There’s also something really empowering in being able to command a certain price.

What would you say to those who say the industry is degrading for women?

So you basically mean ‘radical’ feminists who are obviously against prostitution. With feminism, I think that a lot of them think we are contributing to what they call ‘violence against women’.  They think that by selling our bodies we are contributing to gender inequality.

What I would say to that is that we don’t believe that we’re selling our bodies. Selling my body, that’s slavery. I am definitely not a slave.

I sell my time. I sell my energy. Of course, the physical is a part, but it isn’t everything.

The fighting cry of sex workers is that sex work is just that – work. A career option.

A lot of women speaking out about sexual harassment at the moment. Does that exist in the sex industry at all?

A guy wouldn’t be too bright to come into a brothel and sexually assault somebody because we are well protected. The sheriffs really have our back.

What would a client have to do to a sex worker while they’re working for it to be considered sexual harassment rather than part of the job?

It’s hard to imagine because it’s never happened. I guess if I’m with a client it would be them being insistent on performing a service that I have clearly stated I don’t provide. I’d consider any attempt sexual assault. If I feel like they’re violating my boundaries I wouldn’t allow that. I’d end the booking.

We actually have a panic button. So, if a girl starts feeling uncomfortable she can hit it and a really loud, annoying ring goes off. Then the cashier will bust into the room and see what’s going on.

Is this a lifetime profession?

I’ve known a few ladies who definitely made it a career. There’s ‘Airforce Amy’ who works at Bunny Ranch and has been in the business about 20 years or maybe a little longer.

This is definitely a career for me but I say that knowing that people don’t stay in one career their whole lives.

I read one time that said the average person has ‘seven careers in their lifetime’ so this is definitely a big chapter of my life and I don’t have any plans to stop at the moment.

(This article was originally published on January 15, 2018 at www.lidbible.com)

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Suzette Cole, CEO, Moonlite Bunny Ranch

“Prostitution is the oldest profession and will not go away.  Nevada has been doing it right since 1971 when we took it out of the criminal’s hands and put it into a highly-regulated industry.  As an added benefit, there has never been a case of HIV/AIDS in the history of legal brothels here…and you can’t say that about any other profession in the United States.”

John Stossel, Syndicated Columnist

“We don’t have to cheer for prostitution, or think it’s nice, to keep government out of it and let participants make up their own minds.  It’s wrong to ban sex workers’ options just to make ourselves feel better.”

Steve Chapman, Syndicated Columnist

“Prohibition doesn’t eliminate the harms generally associated with prostitution, such as violence, human trafficking and disease. On the contrary, it fosters them by driving the business underground.”

Christina Parreira, UNLV Researcher/Sex Worker

“Sex work is my CHOICE.  I’d like to continue to have the opportunity to make that choice legally.  We don’t need protection. We’re consenting, adult women.”

Washington, DC Councilman David Grosso

“We need to stop arresting people for things that are not really criminal acts. We should arrest someone for assault…but when it’s two adults engaging in a consensual sex act, I don’t see why that should be an arrestable offense”

New York Assemblyman Richard Gottfried

“Trying to stop sex work between consenting adults should not be the business of the criminal justice system.”

U.S. Sen. Cory Booker

“Yes, sex work should be decriminalized.  As a general matter, I don’t believe that we should be criminalizing activity between consenting adults, and especially when doing so causes even more harm for those involved.”

U.S. Sen. Bernie Sanders

“I think the idea of legalizing prostitution is something that should be considered…(and) certainly needs to be discussed.”

U.S. Sen. Kamala Harris

“When you’re talking about consenting adults, I think that, yes, we should really consider that we can’t criminalize consensual behavior, as long as no one is being harmed. … We should not be criminalizing women who are engaged in consensual opportunities for employment.”

U.S. Sen. Elizabeth Warren

“I believe humans should have autonomy over their own bodies and they get to make their own decisions. … I am open to decriminalizing sex work. Sex workers, like all workers, deserve autonomy and are particularly vulnerable to physical and financial abuse.”

U.S. Rep. Tulsi Gabbard

“If a consenting adult wants to engage in sex work, that is their right, and it should not be a crime. All people should have autonomy over their bodies and their labor.”

Gov. John Hickenlooper

“Legalizing prostitution and regulating it, so there are norms and protections and we understand more clearly how people are being treated and make sure we prevent abuse, I think it should be really looked at.”

Mike Gravel, former Alaska Senator

“Sex workers are workers, and they deserve the dignity and respect that every worker deserves. For too long, we’ve denied them that. Sex workers, not politicians, should lead the way in crafting sex work policy.”

Prof. Ronald Weitzer, George Washington University:

“Unlike illegal street prostitution in many other places, Nevada’s legal brothels do not disturb public order, create nuisances, or negatively impact local communities in other ways. Instead, they provide needed tax revenue for cash-strapped rural towns.”

Prof. Barbara Brents, UNLV author, “State of Sex”:

“Teams of scholars…have concluded that Nevada’s legal brothels provide a far safer environment for sex workers than the criminalized system in the rest of the United States.”

Prof. Sarah Blithe, UNR author, “Sex and Stigma”:

“Discussions of legal prostitution are rife with misinformation.  Academic work and popular press publications alike often conflate legal prostitution in the United States with illegal prostitution.”

Lee Herz Dixon:

“Do I think eradicating legal prostitution from all Nevada counties will erase the practice of the oldest profession in the state, or break the nexus of drugs, crime, and exploitation of the vulnerable? I do not.”

Journalist Michael Cernovich:

“It’s empirically proven that criminalizing sex work allows children to be sex trafficked more readily as they are afraid to turn to authorities and wonder if they will be arrested.”

Enrique Carmona:

“We need to put aside moralistic prejudices, whether based on religion or an idealistic form of feminism, and figure out what is in the best interests of the sex workers and public interest as well.”

Ruby Rae, professional courtesan

“In the brothels, we have the choice, always, to say which clients we will say yes and no to. We have staff that would never let a man hurt us, and we have a clientele that do not come here to hurt us.”

Kiki Lover, professional courtesan:

“We are human beings who chose to do sex work on our own free will. We get treated with respect and like family at the brothels. It’s a job just like any other job. We sell a service that all humans need.”

Paris Envy, professional courtesan:

“I’m not ‘exploited.’ I’m not ‘trafficked.’ I’m not ‘brainwashed.’ I don’t need to be ‘saved.’ I’ve freely chosen this line of work, which is a legal, private transaction between consenting adults.”

Alice Little, professional courtesan:

“It’s ILLEGAL sex work that exploits children. It’s ILLEGAL sex work that traffics. It’s ILLEGAL sex work that sees women exploited and abused by pimps.”

Jim Shedd, Nevadan

“Prostitution should be licensed, regulated, taxed like any other service industry.  There are many single or widowed men and women who should be able to take advantage of such services provided by consenting adults for consenting adults. Let’s act to at least reduce illegal sex trafficking and other sex crimes by creating safe and legal outlets for paying adults who wish to use them.”

Paul Bourassa, brothel customer:

“Some people are just never given a chance in the dating scene, so brothels offer those of us with no experience a chance to learn what it’s like to be on a date.”

Lewis Dawkins, brothel customer:

“It’s not always about sex. Little compliments and encouragements offered by the ladies help build my self-confidence. It’s a business, yes. But the ladies care personally about their clients. That means a lot.”

Brett Caton, brothel customer:

“I think brothels provide an important function in society. Legal ones give a safe outlet to their customers and for some men it is the only way they get so much as a hug.”

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